Friday, November 20, 2009

All You Need is Love

By Josh Barkey 

You have heard it said by the Beatles not so long ago, "all you need is love". And verily I say unto you - this is true, and good. Love is the source of all that truly is, 'tis true. Without love, there is nothing. Nihilo. Nada.

If you are the world's deepest thinker, and can fathom all great mysteries and have set up a row of metaphysical ducks so firmly and perfectly that not a one can be knocked off (except by the imperfect logic of your jealous intellectual inferiors) but have not love... you are zippo. And if you can sing like Lauren Hill... and I'm talking Lauren Hill killing you softly... but haven't got love, you're just a freaking cymbal at a gong show. If you can bake the world's most delicious pie - so good that your brother would sell his birthright to get it (with ice cream, of course) - but you didn't have love, then you might as well be baking cow pies and garnishing them with rabbit turds.

Love is truth. Love is what God is. All you need is love - yes! But what does this mean now, today? That IS the question, because while love is always the same (it is), now is always changing, convoluted definitions as it goes. You might think this a reason to despair, wondering how you can ever fathom such a mystery as this (what with being in the thinking department but an ant, or perhaps a somewhat clever marsupial). This is where I (lovingly) come in. I will tell you what love is. So that you will know.

Love is patient. Love is willing to wait for love to win, for Truth to out. Love does this because love knows, really knows on a soul level, that love already has won, and that we happen to just be stuck, temporarily, in the poopy details of that victory.

Love is kind. That is to say, love is not mean. This is because love realizes that every other person has a whole big wide self, as big as my own self, that is as big and fragile and complex and beautiful and glorious, and love seeks to expand that other self towards greater and greater semblance of its True nature, by and through love. Love is really big on other people, and says nice things about and to them as often as love thinks of it, which is pretty much all the time. That is why the trees are so beautiful. It's love saying, "hey - you're neat!"

Because love is like this, it is not rude and it is never a selfish bastard. In fact, love is no kind of bastard at all, because it is the very essence of legitimacy, in that it is legitimate unto itself - by which I mean to say that it lacks for nothing but what it in itself is - which means that it can and does afford to forgive relentlessly and immediately anything it encounters that isn't measuring up. Love is eternal, see, while not-love is just a frippery we cannot like or understand that somehow (for now, I guess) gives form and context to love. It's a ying-yang, chiaroscuro thing that we'll only ever going to "get" a tiny glimpse of - like the bits you can see through an old, thick-glass leaded window. This doesn't matter, though, because love contextualizes not-love, which (for now, I guess) is enough.

As a result, love doesn't have to go prancing around in its underpants going "look at me! Look at me! I'm the cat's meow AND its pajamas!" Love is humble in the way that only true greatness can be: not self loathing at all, but rather loving itself so fully and perfectly, with such crystalline clarity, that it is able to perfectly love all others. Love doesn't gloat about how super-gra-apple-fritter-awesome pants it is (it is) - instead it rejoices in the truth. It sees the truth about everything and just LOVES it! It sees that folks are wonderful, and brilliantly put together, and complete in a way that cannot be augmented, ever, by anything that could be bought with a Mastercard. It doesn't require the destruction or diminishing of other people or things in order to increase (which it really can't/needn't do), so instead it protects and cherishes them.

It protects the environment, for instance, not out of some sort of guilt or fear of a future cataclysm, but because the environment is AWESOME, in the most awe-inspiring sense of that word. It perseveres in this attitude towards people, and things, and everything, because... well, just because that's the way it is. It's circular. Like a carousel. All good things.

A small child once told me that the most important thing is love. I wanted to say, "but what about not being a pissant and wrecking the earth in a consumer-driven, apathetic, self-worshiping drive for meaningless titillation?" Then I thought, "no. No. The kid's right. Love IS the most important thing. Or perhaps, just maybe, the only thing.

Josh Barkey is an author, painter, teacher and champion tree climber who lives in a shed in North Carolina, writing expansively on whatever comes to mind at

His current writing project is a spiritual memoir with the rough working title of "Anatomy of an Effup: How One Artist Lost His Wife, His Religion, and Most of His Fear", which he is currently posting in serial form on his blog.

Saturday, November 7, 2009

Romantic Text Messages

-Love is something special, a treasure I want to find... To others, love is blind but for me, its not true, coz when I fell in love...I saw you.

-Words begin with ABC. Numbers begin with 123. Music begins with do, re, mi. And Love begins with you and me!

-I love you! If you hate me, shoot me with an arrow, but please not on the heart coz that's were you are!

-Sending you my bed to let you rest, pillows to give you comfort and my blanket to keep you warm. I can't sleep now coz' I've lent you all my things already. Goodnight! I love you.

-8 letters, 3 words, 1 meaning... I love you

-To the world, you may be one person. But to me, you are the world!

-I will walk with you side by side for only one condition: hide your wings every time we walk together because the whole world might know that you're my angel!

-There are 12 months in a year... 30 days in a month... 7 days a week... 24 hours in a day... 60 minutes in an hour... but only ONE u in a life time. I love U

-I painted your picture in my heart and each passing day the picture looks more beautiful Goodnight my angel I luv U

-If I had the letters "HRT", I can add "EA" to get a "HEART" or a "U" and get "HURT". But I'd rather choose "U" and get "HURT" than have a "HEART" without "U".

-A person you love is an extension of yourself. Without it, you're not complete so better take care of yourself because I don't want to lose a part of me.
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Friday, November 6, 2009

How To Meet The Love Of Your Life

By Benson E. A. Reuben 

Research has shown that relationships are breaking off at the highest rate ever. Are you into any serious relationship? Or, are you about to begin any relationship? If you are into any of the above, then this article is designed to help you enter into or enjoy an existing relationship that will last. As you think about relationship, I want you to understand that meeting a mate or life partner that can stick to you for the rest of your life is not just an easy task. Because many people do not know how to meet the true love of their lives, they opt for a relationship that has ruined their emotions and some cases their lives. If you do not wish to be hurt for life, then you need to work at having a good relationship whether in courtship or marriage. Though having an authentic relationship is not an easy task,it is a possible task.

The first thing to have at the back of your mind as you search for the love of your life is that he or she exists within the religious, social, economical, educational, occupational, residential, ethical and or tribal platforms where you belong. It means by implication that comparable relationship with a person should be judged from the standpoint of these platforms except in some few exceptional cases where a party crosses over these platforms in order to reach the love of his or her life and in such cases, the challenges and obstacles to cross can not be quantified.

It is most safer to begin the relationship search that should eventual lead to a marriage life by searching from the platforms where you belong. If you do not want to be hurt for life, you need to be humble enough to accept the fact that a relationship that will benefit both parties and will last is the relationship where at least three or four of these platforms play the game for you. The basic ones are:

Beliefs are powerful binding forces in life. Every existing marriage or relationship is regulated by a belief system. religion is the mother of beliefs. Take note of this fact, every marriage relationship must begin and be sustained on the platform of religious beliefs. Does the person you say you love have the same religious convictions that you have? If so, that could be the true love of your life but religion is not enough.

You can meet one with whom you want to spend the rest of your life with from your social circle. Since you are a social being it is no argument that you have a social lifestyle. Sometimes marriages built without social consideration ends in dilemmas. You find true love when the person in question does not contradict your social convictions. This also is not enough.

Do not joke about the educational status of anyone you are in love with or is about to fall in love with. It is true that people from the same educational backgrounds often fall in love and that is good but holistic education is what guarantees a good marriage relationship. You can find love in an educated person who does not know how to make love work.

Marriage is like a business so it is partly sustained by the amount of money in circulation. It is in today's world that jobless people try to get into marriage. Listen well, you cannot find the love of your life in poverty, find it where you are sure you will not be staved. Unless a man or woman proves to be industrious, your love may not be there.This platform is not also enough in considering how to find the love of your life.

The same thing applies to the other platforms like occupational, ethical or tribal platforms not treated in details here. The truth is that you may be working on a wrong relationship if you ignore these platforms. Sometimes some of the people you meet outside of these platforms may only be using you to gratify their present lusts, at a later time they may disappoint you. It happens to both the male and females. Do not try to find love where it is not, find it in whom, what and where it could be found.

As you meet the love of your life, do not forget that the pressure that accompanies the choice of a love from outside the social, economical, religious, educational and other platforms where you belong will be intense. Do not also forget that the challenges you will face in marriage if you fall in love with someone that is not on the same platform with you today will be hard to believe.

It is deception that makes people believe that marriage will work in spite of the platforms that form the bedrock of the relationship. Such relationship can never end in marriage and if it does that marriage may be existing through pressure. Your ability to define your platform and that of the person who wants to claim your love for life is an asset, work with it.
The important task before you now is to check the situations of the person you are considering for a relationship before you give in all you've got. Your life is too precious to be toyed with, meet the love of your life after you have defined the platforms of that love and you will never regret it.

Thanks for reading this and be blessed.
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DON'T cry over anyone who won't cry over you.
Good FRIENDS are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.
You can only go as far as you push.
ACTIONS speak louder than words.
The HARDEST thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.
DON'T let the past hold you back, you're missing the good stuff.
LIFE'S SHORT. If you don't look around once in a while you might miss it.
A BEST FRIEND is like a four leaf clover, HARD TO FIND and LUCKY TO HAVE.
Some people make the world SPECIAL just by being in it.
BEST FRIENDS are the siblings God forgot to give us.
When it HURTS to look back, and you're SCARED to look ahead,     you can look beside you and your BEST FRIEND will be there.
Good friends are like STARS    You don't always see them, but you know they are ALWAYS THERE.
DON'T  frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile.
What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?
Nobody is perfect until you fall in love with them.
Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end.
Most people walk in and out of your life, but only FRIENDS leave       footprints in your heart.