By Benson E. A. Reuben
Research has shown that relationships are breaking off at the highest rate ever. Are you into any serious relationship? Or, are you about to begin any relationship? If you are into any of the above, then this article is designed to help you enter into or enjoy an existing relationship that will last. As you think about relationship, I want you to understand that meeting a mate or life partner that can stick to you for the rest of your life is not just an easy task. Because many people do not know how to meet the true love of their lives, they opt for a relationship that has ruined their emotions and some cases their lives. If you do not wish to be hurt for life, then you need to work at having a good relationship whether in courtship or marriage. Though having an authentic relationship is not an easy task,it is a possible task.
DEFINE YOUR PLATFORMS
The first thing to have at the back of your mind as you search for the love of your life is that he or she exists within the religious, social, economical, educational, occupational, residential, ethical and or tribal platforms where you belong. It means by implication that comparable relationship with a person should be judged from the standpoint of these platforms except in some few exceptional cases where a party crosses over these platforms in order to reach the love of his or her life and in such cases, the challenges and obstacles to cross can not be quantified.
It is most safer to begin the relationship search that should eventual lead to a marriage life by searching from the platforms where you belong. If you do not want to be hurt for life, you need to be humble enough to accept the fact that a relationship that will benefit both parties and will last is the relationship where at least three or four of these platforms play the game for you. The basic ones are:
1. RELIGIOUS PLATFORM
Beliefs are powerful binding forces in life. Every existing marriage or relationship is regulated by a belief system. religion is the mother of beliefs. Take note of this fact, every marriage relationship must begin and be sustained on the platform of religious beliefs. Does the person you say you love have the same religious convictions that you have? If so, that could be the true love of your life but religion is not enough.
2. SOCIAL PLATFORM
You can meet one with whom you want to spend the rest of your life with from your social circle. Since you are a social being it is no argument that you have a social lifestyle. Sometimes marriages built without social consideration ends in dilemmas. You find true love when the person in question does not contradict your social convictions. This also is not enough.
3. EDUCATIONAL PLATFORM
Do not joke about the educational status of anyone you are in love with or is about to fall in love with. It is true that people from the same educational backgrounds often fall in love and that is good but holistic education is what guarantees a good marriage relationship. You can find love in an educated person who does not know how to make love work.
4. ECONOMICAL PLATFORM
Marriage is like a business so it is partly sustained by the amount of money in circulation. It is in today's world that jobless people try to get into marriage. Listen well, you cannot find the love of your life in poverty, find it where you are sure you will not be staved. Unless a man or woman proves to be industrious, your love may not be there.This platform is not also enough in considering how to find the love of your life.
The same thing applies to the other platforms like occupational, ethical or tribal platforms not treated in details here. The truth is that you may be working on a wrong relationship if you ignore these platforms. Sometimes some of the people you meet outside of these platforms may only be using you to gratify their present lusts, at a later time they may disappoint you. It happens to both the male and females. Do not try to find love where it is not, find it in whom, what and where it could be found.
As you meet the love of your life, do not forget that the pressure that accompanies the choice of a love from outside the social, economical, religious, educational and other platforms where you belong will be intense. Do not also forget that the challenges you will face in marriage if you fall in love with someone that is not on the same platform with you today will be hard to believe.
It is deception that makes people believe that marriage will work in spite of the platforms that form the bedrock of the relationship. Such relationship can never end in marriage and if it does that marriage may be existing through pressure. Your ability to define your platform and that of the person who wants to claim your love for life is an asset, work with it.
The important task before you now is to check the situations of the person you are considering for a relationship before you give in all you've got. Your life is too precious to be toyed with, meet the love of your life after you have defined the platforms of that love and you will never regret it.
Thanks for reading this and be blessed.
Research has shown that relationships are breaking off at the highest rate ever. Are you into any serious relationship? Or, are you about to begin any relationship? If you are into any of the above, then this article is designed to help you enter into or enjoy an existing relationship that will last. As you think about relationship, I want you to understand that meeting a mate or life partner that can stick to you for the rest of your life is not just an easy task. Because many people do not know how to meet the true love of their lives, they opt for a relationship that has ruined their emotions and some cases their lives. If you do not wish to be hurt for life, then you need to work at having a good relationship whether in courtship or marriage. Though having an authentic relationship is not an easy task,it is a possible task.
DEFINE YOUR PLATFORMS
The first thing to have at the back of your mind as you search for the love of your life is that he or she exists within the religious, social, economical, educational, occupational, residential, ethical and or tribal platforms where you belong. It means by implication that comparable relationship with a person should be judged from the standpoint of these platforms except in some few exceptional cases where a party crosses over these platforms in order to reach the love of his or her life and in such cases, the challenges and obstacles to cross can not be quantified.
It is most safer to begin the relationship search that should eventual lead to a marriage life by searching from the platforms where you belong. If you do not want to be hurt for life, you need to be humble enough to accept the fact that a relationship that will benefit both parties and will last is the relationship where at least three or four of these platforms play the game for you. The basic ones are:
1. RELIGIOUS PLATFORM
Beliefs are powerful binding forces in life. Every existing marriage or relationship is regulated by a belief system. religion is the mother of beliefs. Take note of this fact, every marriage relationship must begin and be sustained on the platform of religious beliefs. Does the person you say you love have the same religious convictions that you have? If so, that could be the true love of your life but religion is not enough.
2. SOCIAL PLATFORM
You can meet one with whom you want to spend the rest of your life with from your social circle. Since you are a social being it is no argument that you have a social lifestyle. Sometimes marriages built without social consideration ends in dilemmas. You find true love when the person in question does not contradict your social convictions. This also is not enough.
3. EDUCATIONAL PLATFORM
Do not joke about the educational status of anyone you are in love with or is about to fall in love with. It is true that people from the same educational backgrounds often fall in love and that is good but holistic education is what guarantees a good marriage relationship. You can find love in an educated person who does not know how to make love work.
4. ECONOMICAL PLATFORM
Marriage is like a business so it is partly sustained by the amount of money in circulation. It is in today's world that jobless people try to get into marriage. Listen well, you cannot find the love of your life in poverty, find it where you are sure you will not be staved. Unless a man or woman proves to be industrious, your love may not be there.This platform is not also enough in considering how to find the love of your life.
The same thing applies to the other platforms like occupational, ethical or tribal platforms not treated in details here. The truth is that you may be working on a wrong relationship if you ignore these platforms. Sometimes some of the people you meet outside of these platforms may only be using you to gratify their present lusts, at a later time they may disappoint you. It happens to both the male and females. Do not try to find love where it is not, find it in whom, what and where it could be found.
As you meet the love of your life, do not forget that the pressure that accompanies the choice of a love from outside the social, economical, religious, educational and other platforms where you belong will be intense. Do not also forget that the challenges you will face in marriage if you fall in love with someone that is not on the same platform with you today will be hard to believe.
It is deception that makes people believe that marriage will work in spite of the platforms that form the bedrock of the relationship. Such relationship can never end in marriage and if it does that marriage may be existing through pressure. Your ability to define your platform and that of the person who wants to claim your love for life is an asset, work with it.
The important task before you now is to check the situations of the person you are considering for a relationship before you give in all you've got. Your life is too precious to be toyed with, meet the love of your life after you have defined the platforms of that love and you will never regret it.
Thanks for reading this and be blessed.
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